Online dating safety guide
Safety on me.you is structural, not optional. Here is what the platform does automatically, what you control yourself, and what to watch for when meeting people online.
What me.you does automatically
These protections are built into the platform. They are not settings you need to configure — they apply to every account by default. See our community guidelines for what behaviour is expected from all members.
| Protection | What it does | Applies to |
|---|---|---|
| Email verification | Every account must verify their email before going active. Unverified accounts cannot appear in discovery or send messages. | All accounts |
| Mutual-match messaging | You can only send and receive messages with people you have both liked. Cold contact is structurally impossible. | All accounts |
| Silent passes | When you pass on a profile, the other person is not notified. There are no rejection notifications on either side. | All accounts |
| Private diary default | New diary entries default to private. They are never shown to anyone without a deliberate action by the author. | All diary entries |
| Human moderation | All reports go to a human moderation team for review within 24 hours. No automated-only enforcement. | All reports |
Controls you manage yourself
Some safety decisions are yours to make, because only you know what feels right in a specific situation. All controls are available from your dashboard.
Block a user
Block from a profile page, from discovery, or from inside a message thread. Blocked users cannot see your profile and cannot contact you. They are not told they have been blocked.
Report a user
Report any profile, message, or diary entry. Choose a reason and add notes if you want. Reports go directly to the moderation team. Read our community guidelines to understand what qualifies.
Profile visibility
Set your profile to private (only you), members-only (verified members), or public (indexed). Change it any time from your profile settings without losing data.
Diary visibility
Each diary entry has its own visibility setting. Private entries are invisible to everyone. You can change the setting on any entry at any time.
Account deactivation
Deactivate your account to take a break. Your profile is hidden from discovery and other members. Your data is preserved and you can reactivate any time.
Permanent deletion
Delete your account permanently from your settings page. All data is removed within 30 days as described in the Privacy Policy.
Warning signs to watch for
Most people on me.you are genuine. But knowing what manipulation and scam behaviour looks like will help you identify it quickly. If you spot it, report the user directly from their profile.
Profile red flags
- Only one photo, or photos that look like professional stock images.
- No bio, no prompts answered, and limited profile information.
- Age or location that seems inconsistent with how they write.
- Photos that reverse image search to a different name or website.
Conversation red flags
- Expressing strong romantic feelings very quickly — within the first few messages.
- Messages that feel copy-pasted and do not reference things you have said.
- Pressure to move the conversation to WhatsApp, Telegram, or another platform immediately.
- Any request for money, gift cards, or financial help for any reason. This is always a scam — report it immediately.
- Refusing to video call, or always having a reason why the camera does not work.
- Stories about being in crisis or stranded somewhere that lead toward a request for help.
Meeting in person
- Always meet in a public place for a first date. Our date idea generator has safe first-date suggestions.
- Tell a friend or family member where you are going and when to expect you back.
- Arrange your own transport to and from the meeting location.
- Trust your instincts — if something feels wrong, leave. Read our FAQ for common concerns.
- Do not share your home address until you have built genuine trust.
Protecting your personal information
What other members see on me.you is limited to your display name, photos, bio, prompts, and interests. Your email is never shown. How your data is stored and used is described in our Privacy Policy. Below is what to keep private during conversations.
| Information type | Guidance |
|---|---|
| Full name | Your first name is generally fine. Avoid sharing your last name until you have built real trust. |
| Phone number | Keep conversations on me.you as long as possible. Move to phone when trust is established — our messaging system keeps you covered until then. |
| Home address | Never share your home address early. Suggest a public meeting location instead — see our date idea generator for inspiration. |
| Workplace | Avoid sharing your specific employer or work address in early conversations. |
| Social media | Linking to social profiles that show your location, workplace, or personal connections is a risk early on. |
| Financial details | Never share bank details, account numbers, or card information with any person you have met online. If asked, report it immediately. |
Report abuse or suspicious behaviour
Report any user directly from their profile. All reports are reviewed by the moderation team — not automated filters. Read our community guidelines to understand what is and is not acceptable. If you believe there is an urgent or criminal risk, contact us directly.