Community guidelines
These are the rules that make me.you a respectful, safe, and genuine place to meet people. They apply to every member equally. Last updated: April 2025.
The short version
What we encourage
- Be honest about who you are in your profile
- Treat every person you interact with respectfully
- Report behaviour that violates these guidelines
- Block people who make you uncomfortable
- Keep conversations inside me.you while you build trust
- Meet in public for a first date
What is not allowed
- Fake profiles or impersonating anyone
- Harassment, threats, or abusive messages
- Sexual content in profiles or diaries without appropriate privacy settings
- Requesting money, gifts, or financial information
- Sharing another person's personal information without consent
- Spam, bot behaviour, or automated actions
Detailed guidelines
Profiles and identity
- Your profile must represent you accurately. Using someone else's photos, or photos that are significantly outdated, is not permitted.
- You must be at least 18 years old to use me.you. Providing a false age is a violation that results in immediate account removal.
- You may use a first name or display name — you do not have to use your full legal name. But you may not impersonate another real person.
- Profile photos must show a recognisable image of you. Photos of landscapes, objects, or other people as your primary photo are not permitted.
- Profiles must not include hate speech, discriminatory language, or content designed to demean any group of people.
Messaging and conversation
- Messages must not be threatening, harassing, sexually explicit without consent, or designed to manipulate or deceive.
- Unsolicited sexual content — including explicit messages or photos — is a violation and may result in immediate account removal.
- You may not solicit money, gift cards, cryptocurrency, or any financial transfer from another member under any circumstances.
- Attempts to move the conversation off-platform before any trust is established, especially if combined with pressure or urgency, are a red flag the platform takes seriously.
- Copy-pasted mass messages are considered spam behaviour and may result in account suspension.
Diaries and public content
- Diary entries that are set to public or members-only are visible to other members and must comply with these guidelines.
- You may not share identifying information about other members in your diary without their explicit consent.
- Diary entries may not contain explicit sexual content if the visibility is set to public or members-only.
- Content that is designed to harass, humiliate, or defame another specific person is not permitted in any visibility setting.
Safety and trust
- Do not share another member's personal contact information, home address, workplace, or photos outside of me.you without their consent.
- Attempting to identify a member's real-world identity through information they have not chosen to share is a privacy violation.
- If you suspect someone is operating a scam, running a bot account, or impersonating another person, report them immediately.
- Cooperate with moderation if you are contacted about reported behaviour. Failure to engage with a moderation review may result in suspension.
How violations are handled
All reports are reviewed by our moderation team — not automated filters. Actions taken depend on the severity of the violation and whether it is a first incident.
| Severity | Examples | Likely action |
|---|---|---|
| Minor | Slightly misleading bio, borderline message | Warning and guidance |
| Moderate | Spam messages, pressure to move off-platform | Temporary suspension |
| Serious | Harassment, unsolicited explicit content, threats | Account removal |
| Severe | Fake identity, financial scams, impersonation | Immediate permanent ban |
We do not disclose the outcome of reports to the reporting member, to protect the privacy of both parties. Reports are not a guaranteed outcome — they are reviewed in context.
Report a violation
Report any member directly from their profile, from inside a message thread, or from any diary entry. For urgent safety concerns, contact us directly.