Community guidelines
These are the rules that make me.you a respectful, safe, and genuine place to meet people. They apply to every member equally. Last updated: April 2025.
The short version
What we encourage
- Be honest about who you are in your profile
- Treat every person you interact with respectfully
- Report behaviour that violates these guidelines
- Block people who make you uncomfortable
- Keep conversations inside me.you while you build trust
- Meet in public for a first date
What is not allowed
- Fake profiles or impersonating anyone
- Harassment, threats, or abusive messages
- Sexual content in profiles or diaries without appropriate privacy settings
- Requesting money, gifts, or financial information
- Sharing another person's personal information without consent
- Spam, bot behaviour, or automated actions
Detailed guidelines
Profiles and identity
- Your profile must represent you accurately. Using someone else's photos, or photos that are significantly outdated, is not permitted.
- You must be at least 18 years old to use me.you. Providing a false age is a violation that results in immediate account removal.
- You may use a first name or display name — you do not have to use your full legal name. But you may not impersonate another real person.
- Profile photos must show a recognisable image of you. Photos of landscapes, objects, or other people as your primary photo are not permitted.
- Profiles must not include hate speech, discriminatory language, or content designed to demean any group of people.
Messaging and conversation
- Messages must not be threatening, harassing, sexually explicit without consent, or designed to manipulate or deceive.
- Unsolicited sexual content — including explicit messages or photos — is a violation and may result in immediate account removal.
- You may not solicit money, gift cards, cryptocurrency, or any financial transfer from another member under any circumstances.
- Attempts to move the conversation off-platform before any trust is established, especially if combined with pressure or urgency, are a red flag the platform takes seriously.
- Copy-pasted mass messages are considered spam behaviour and may result in account suspension.
Diaries and public content
- Diary entries that are set to public or members-only are visible to other members and must comply with these guidelines.
- You may not share identifying information about other members in your diary without their explicit consent.
- Diary entries may not contain explicit sexual content if the visibility is set to public or members-only.
- Content that is designed to harass, humiliate, or defame another specific person is not permitted in any visibility setting.
Safety and trust
- Do not share another member's personal contact information, home address, workplace, or photos outside of me.you without their consent.
- Attempting to identify a member's real-world identity through information they have not chosen to share is a privacy violation.
- If you suspect someone is operating a scam, running a bot account, or impersonating another person, report them immediately.
- Cooperate with moderation if you are contacted about reported behaviour. Failure to engage with a moderation review may result in suspension.
How violations are handled
All reports are reviewed by our moderation team — not automated filters. Actions taken depend on the severity of the violation and whether it is a first incident.
| Severity | Examples | Likely action |
|---|---|---|
| Minor | Slightly misleading bio, borderline message | Warning and guidance |
| Moderate | Spam messages, pressure to move off-platform | Temporary suspension |
| Serious | Harassment, unsolicited explicit content, threats | Account removal |
| Severe | Fake identity, financial scams, impersonation | Immediate permanent ban |
We do not disclose the outcome of reports to the reporting member, to protect the privacy of both parties. Reports are not a guaranteed outcome — they are reviewed in context.
Report a violation
Report any member directly from their profile, from inside a message thread, or from any diary entry. For urgent safety concerns, contact us directly.
Related
How to stay safe and what the platform protects you from.
How your data is collected, used, and protected.
The legal agreement governing use of me.you.
Common questions about accounts, matching, and safety.